Delayed Response: The Art of Waiting from the Ancient to the Instant World by Jason Farman

"[Barthes] writes, 'Waiting is an enchantment: I have received orders not to move...Am I in love? Yes, since I am waiting. The other never waits. Sometimes I want to play the part of the one who doesn't wait; I busy myself elsewhere, to arrive late; but I always lose at this game: whatever I do, I find myself there, with nothing to do, punctual, even ahead of time. The lover's fatal identity is precisely: I am the one who waits.'"