The Book of Delights by Ross Gay

"The point is that in almost every instance of our lives, our social lives, we are, if we pay attention, in the midst of an almost constant, if subtle, caretaking. Holding open doors. Offering elbows at crosswalks. Letting someone else go first. Helping with the heavy bags. Reaching what's too high, or what's been dropped...This caretaking is our default mode and it's always a lie that convinces us to act or believe otherwise. Always."